|Anonymous said: Why do you even ship "Swarkles"? Robin doesn't love Barney as much as he loves her. She doesn't deserve him.|
I hope you are having a lovely day/night. Thank you for the message. I actually love messages like this because it allows me to fan girl to full capacity because no one usually cares why I ship anything. I would like to make it clear that Swarkles is my #1 ship. Like ever. So that being said, this is going to be very, very biased.
Alright so the question is: Why do I ship them? Does Robin love Barney as much as he loves her? And does she deserve his love?
I’m gonna begin with the last one first because it’s something that always bothers me, so I’m sorry if it sounds harsh, I promise, I’m not trying to be.
Does Robin deserve Barney’s love? (Btw, this is a new one. I usually see that Barney doesn’t deserve Robin’s love.) Well, if we’re looking at it like that, who truly deserves love? The thing that I love about HIMYM is that it’s very true to life; the characters aren’t too unbelievable or unrelatable. With that in mind, I think everyone can fit into one of two categories presented and then you tell me who deserves and doesn’t deserve love.
You have the Marshalls and Lilys - those who have only had each other. Surely, they deserve love. They got married, started a family, did everything “right”. Oh wait, Lily left Marshall to go to San Fran. Did she deserve Marshall to take her back? Maybe not. Then, he took the job in NY and brought UP San Fran 7 yrs later. Did he deserve her to come back? To some people, that might’ve been unforgivable.
You have the Teds, Barneys and Robins - Yes, I put all of them together. Maybe Ted started with different motives, but at this point, he’s almost exactly like Barney. They proved that in Ring Up. He BOUGHT a hat to get together with some girl. He might be looking for love, and Barney wasn’t, but it’s the same thing. Throw Robin in there, too. These are all people who have issues. Barney and Robin’s are deeply rooted trust issues because of their fathers. Ted has issues with letting go. Anywayyyyy, point is -None of them would be the ideal people who “deserve” love.
I really do think that all of these characters have things that would make them not deserve love. However, we really all have things that make us undeserving of love. But thankfully, that’s not how it works. There’s love out there for everyone so just cause Robin has made some mistakes, it doesn’t mean she doesn’t deserve his love. Or vise versa. Barney has messed up. Robin has messed up. They might not deserve love, but real love isn’t limited to what you’ve done to earn it. So, yeah, I think that everyone deserves love.
Why do I ship them? That’s actually easier and maybe shorter of an answer. Maybe. I ship Barney and Robin because i like the idea that there’s someone out there for everyone. That Barney, who never really had anyone consider him a best friend, is MARRYING his best friend. (I have a thing about friends. Since I can relate to that.) That he watched a lame music video thousands of times and maybe that’s why he fell for her; because he loves EVERYTHING about her. I really do love the Barney aspect of the relationship. I’m a girl, so maybe we’ll blame it on that, but i do love the idea that he’s so into her. I think it’s adorable. I love that he changed so much for her.
Now, the other question about Robin loving him is part of why I love them. Robin is pretty messed up. I love her, but she is. She a commitment phobe, maybe more than Barney. She has major daddy issues. How can she ever trust her heart to a man when the first man who was supposed to love her, never showed it? To learn that BARNEY STINSON loves her? That sounds like a bad joke to her because he doesn’t show love for any woman but his mother, and that’s like 3 years after knowing him.
I truly think that she’s loved him, well maybe the idea with him at first, since the beginning. In the FOURTH episode, she’s taking challenges from him. AND ENJOYING THEM. WE HAVE TO ASSUME SHE’S ENJOYING IT BECAUSE ROBIN SCHERBATSKY DOES NOT DO ANYTHING THAT SHE DOESN’T LIKE. I can’t really go step by step cause this is already super long, but in Zip, Zip, Zip, she suits up for him. That was for his enjoyment. In How Lily Stole Christmas, she virtually ignores Ted, her BOYFRIEND’S drama, to take care of him. In Sandcastles in the Sand, yes she needed comfort, but the video was for him. The Murtaugh List, again, for him. Everything she does when they’re together are huge indicators of her love for him. She loves to see him happy. She loves his jokes. (I don’t know if it’s Cobie and Neil, but they’re always drawn to each other. My favorite part of the relationship is the quiet love for the others jokes and now they don’t have to hide it.) Maybe it started out as “bro love” but she said ” I used to describe my ideal guy as funny, smart, passionate, challenging.” UMMMM NOW SHE CAN DESCRIBE HIM THAT WAY. He’s her perfect match. After her break up she was more upset than he was. (I’ve already described how much I know he loves her. That’s just a fact.) When she let him go, she really thought that was for the best. And when he got down on that one knee, she said yes. She didn’t second guess his actions anymore, and she’s finally believing the truth. The truth that her father ruined for her: A man will love her unconditionally despite and because of her flaws because SHE’S WORTH IT. Robin Scherbatsky loves Barney Stinson just as much as he loves her. She just shows it differently. Do I want my big speech from her? Heck yeah. The vows better be killer. But I ship them because the love is so clear to me.
'm sorry this was really long. (not that sorry. I love Swarkles and when opportunities like this arise, I take them.) Hope you're still reading and you enjoyed this.
Love this, I agree 100% it’s just the truth they love each other unconditionally. she might not show it but she does, Robin doesn’t like to show her feelings or express how she feels because nobody showed her love and it all goes back to her father but I don’t really blame it on her father I blame it on how her life was when she was younger. It’s everything from the way she was raised to how she dealt with adulthood and seeing that Barney had shown her love, true love she can show her feelings because she knows he’s telling the truth when he tells her he loves her.